13

"Attentiveness. Reading your partner’s body language and sounds so you pinpoint what they enjoy faster tops any other skill."

-LadyLyriel283

14

"You need to learn how to lick around the nipples, play by blowing cold air on them, and blowing hot air by exhaling with your open mouth. Also, sucking the nipple in repetitive manners to allow your partner to enjoy the continuity for a minute or two in each variation. Putting your fingers inside her hair touching the back of the head while you kiss is great.

What’s great about being good at sex is your partner is a human being who is reciprocal by nature, so they will give you their best sex in return. Sex is like playing music, you need to understand you will be doing it all your life, so try to get better continuously, and more importantly, enjoy yourself."

-kungfucobra

15

"Basic physical fitness! Because really, for the person on top or “making the movement”, you can get exhausted fast. Don’t forget legs and hips days at the gym."

-MinuitKa

16

"Enthusiasm. I love giving head and it’s the enthusiasm people love and get off to more than just the physical feelings."

-I_Am_A_Mudcrab

17

"Sex is not one-sided and there is no single move or speed that makes the other side go crazy. In my opinion, what makes the best lover is following your partner’s reactions, listen to him/her and concentrate on your bond.

Foreplay is a really good way to bond, experiment, and learn each other for both sides. Oral sex is a great thing if you’re into it and don’t force anything that you don’t like or the other side doesn’t like. The effect of a lot of things that you do or they do during sex can depend on the environment, mood, and personal preference. Just be in the moment and act on your instincts."

-Dartosismyname

18

"Everyone has different answers, but for me, it’s the pure submissive desire to please."

-Jhwelsh

19

"I think that knowing your partner is the key, so you can know their trigger. The more time you spend together, the better lover you become."

-Melbcsc

20

"Not overthinking things. At some point in my 30s, I promised myself to try to say/ask for whatever came into my head — without censoring. That was a game-changer for me personally."

-lilredwriting

21

"Attentiveness, confidence, and adaptability. Great sex doesn’t have to be perfect sex. For example, when my partner first enters me during anal, I usually need him to pull out within a few seconds because the initial insertion hurts. So we just kiss and engage in more foreplay for about a minute as my sphincter muscles relax, then I’m usually good to go for another few hours and another few sessions.

Do I wish that he could stay inside me on the initial push? Yeah. I guess that would be “perfect”. But I appreciate that he’s aware of my body language so much so that he doesn’t force it when it’s uncomfortable. It makes me feel confident about being with him, and we both adapt to the situation by still enjoying each other. We don’t have “perfect” sex. We have lots of mind-blowing, phenomenal sex instead."

-TN_HoneyBear

22

"Being able to read your partner’s body language even when you’re getting off yourself."

-Stewie9109

23

"Not so much a skill, but just take your time. Sex in real life is not a porn scene, so there’s no need to rush it."

-austinsummer34

24

"For men, being in the moment and enjoying yourself. Don’t distract yourself while trying not to cum too fast. If your head’s not into it, I can totally tell."

-trashisfortossers