"Being able to express with confidence – passion.
This comes in various flavors from innate communication, enthusiasm for their pleasure over yours, endurance, recovery time, prolonged delights (not in a hurry), stress-released massages, and accommodating pleasures."
"The understanding that life isn’t like porn. Sometimes you finish too early. Sometimes your back hurts, and you have to go easy. Sometimes you just want regular-ass missionary."
"I’ve learned a lot of foreplay does wonders for both partners or multiple partners."
"Long term:Communication. Communicating your needs and desires as well as giving constructive feedback. This skill will literally “make” you the best lover for your partner.
Short term:Attentiveness in men. Confidence in women."
"Good hygiene is a start."
"When someone says “keep going” or “just like that”, keep doing that thing. Don’t try to over perform."
"I would say a spouse, significant other, or lover that actually wants to have sex with you after they have paired up with you. There are so many that “play the game” to make you feel loved, needed, desired. Then after the game is won (by whatever metric they have in their head), they stop playing. They stop initiating the sex and stop responding to the initiation attempts of the other party.
All this does is leave the other half of the relationship wondering what they did wrong, why they are no longer needed, loved, and the big one…desired. The biggest gut-punch comes from the lost feeling of desirability."
"Aftercare. Whether you have kinky sex or just plain vanilla, the best skill and one of the most essential skills to have is being able to be attentive to each other’s needs following sex (this could be cuddling, ensuring the other is not hurt, if something went wrong or unexpected during sex, ensuring you take care of your partner, etc)!"
"Coordinate de orgasm."
"Mindfulness. The more you are in the moment with your partner, the less time you spend thinking about your performance…or the groceries."
"Passion and a desire to please. When those aren’t there, it’s just not nearly as fun."
"Listening. Not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well. Being a great listener outside the bedroom can make things better in the bedroom."